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They plan destination weddings for the rich and famous. Here are their secrets

Wedding planners say it's important for planners and couples to have a good relationship. Here's a snapshot from a Puglia, Italy, wedding planned by Giorgia Fantin Borghi. (Giacomo Terracciano Studio/Courtesy Giorgia Fantin Borghi) Wedding planners say it's important for planners and couples to have a good relationship. Here's a snapshot from a Puglia, Italy, wedding planned by Giorgia Fantin Borghi. (Giacomo Terracciano Studio/Courtesy Giorgia Fantin Borghi)
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For couples with an ultra-high net worth, a wedding on the banks of Italy鈥檚 Lake Como, in the surrounds of a turreted French ch芒teau or on a sun-kissed Mexican beach is de rigueur.

But these actors, sports stars and tech billionaires don鈥檛 spend their evenings on Google, searching for the perfect location, researching suppliers or scrolling through endless online reviews.

They enlist the world鈥檚 top destination wedding planners to make, as planner Jung Lee of F锚te New York puts it, 鈥渢he impossible, possible.鈥

Take the brief provided by a recent bride-to-be to wedding planner Colin Cowie: 鈥淚 want to go somewhere that鈥檚 not easy to get to, I want it to be so remote that they鈥檒l never go back there again. And I want it to be extraordinarily memorable.鈥

For Cowie, this is standard fare. The South African-born New Yorker has made a career of planning parties for the rich and famous 鈥 including, 

鈥淚f the request is in good taste, there鈥檚 nothing I wouldn鈥檛 do,鈥 Cowie tells CNN Travel.

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

For this recent client, Cowie pinpointed Lake W膩naka in New Zealand: gorgeous, peaceful and 鈥 for the American wedding party 鈥 pretty far-flung.

The whole thing, says Cowie, was 鈥渆xorbitantly expensive.鈥 The wedding party, the guests and Cowie鈥檚 multiperson team flew business class across the world to spend days celebrating in style. Cowie pulled it off without a glitch.

鈥淲e were working in the New Zealand landscape, which was just so beautiful, such extraordinary foods, extraordinary wines 鈥 an amazing experience,鈥 says Cowie.

A MUTUAL RELATIONSHIP

Wealthy couples planning blowout destination weddings trust their planners with thousands, maybe millions, of dollars 鈥 and one of the most special days of their lives.

They pick their planner carefully, but elite wedding planners say they鈥檙e equally judicious when choosing the couples with whom they work.

鈥淲hile you鈥檙e interviewing me, I鈥檓 interviewing you 鈥 it鈥檚 a two-way street,鈥 says Cowie. 鈥淭here are people out there that are Bridezillas and Groomzillas. I run for the hills when I see them.鈥

Josiah Carr of the event planning business Samkoma echoes this. Carr says he and his husband and co-founder Justin McGregor will pay close attention to prospective clients' interactions during introductory conversations:

鈥淛ust watching a couple communicate about their wedding, we get a good sense of how they treat each other on the call. And that in turn, helps us get a good sense of how they would also treat us,鈥 he says.

Carr planned the much-buzzed-about  鈥 at a California vineyard. Carr says he and his husband often become close with their clients over the months they spend working together.

鈥淢ost of the time after the wedding, we remain very close with those couples, we consider them friends, they consider us friends,鈥 he says.

Having a good relationship with the clients鈥 families is often equally crucial. 鈥淚 have more moms on speed dial than I ever thought I would,鈥 says Carr.

It鈥檚 part of the wedding planner鈥檚 job to smooth over any familial disagreements.

鈥淚 tell people all the time that I have not had cable TV in my entire adult life because I have enough reality shows going on between my eight brides and their families,鈥 says Carr. 鈥淚 don鈥檛 need cable to keep myself entertained. It鈥檚 definitely an entertaining career for sure.鈥

Some couples prefer to work with companies based in their home countries, but others will choose a wedding planner based in the destination where they鈥檙e intending to get married.

Wedding planner Giorgia Fantin Borghi thinks being an Italian who is based in Italy is one of her big selling points.

鈥淭o be honest with you, many ultra-high net worth, ultra-rich people are a bit afraid of Italians,鈥 she says, suggesting Americans view Italians as blunt. Fantin Borghi says she鈥檚 able to be a bridge between Italian vendors and the English-speaking couples with whom she works.

Once a destination wedding planner and ultra-high net worth client relationship is nailed down, a non-disclosure agreement often follows.

Lee 鈥 who has planned events for Katy Perry, Ronan Farrow and President Joe Biden 鈥 says over half of her jobs involve signing NDAs. Whether or not she鈥檚 signed a formal agreement, she and her team are 鈥渇iercely protective of our clients.鈥

鈥淭he vendors that we bring on also make sure they do the same,鈥 she adds.

Early conversations between a destination wedding planner and prospective clients will also include discussions of budget 鈥 yes, even the richest couples generally set a budget for their nuptials.

鈥淚 have very, very wealthy clients,鈥 says Lee. 鈥淎nd I鈥檝e never, ever encountered where somebody was willing to give me a blank check.鈥

Still, these budgets have the potential to be astronomical. And the more mammoth the budget, the bigger the affair 鈥 think more attendees, more days of celebrating, bigger venue.

鈥淓ssentially take whatever original wedding budget was for one day, we would just do that four times over the course of four days,鈥 as Carr puts it.

This could take the form of 鈥渁n over-the-top welcome party, maybe a beautiful romantic candlelit dinner on the first night,鈥 he says. 鈥淎nd then an over-the-top welcome party with live entertainment on the second night, and then their wedding. And then we have a send-off brunch on a boat.鈥

Guests attending swanky destination weddings usually pay for their own airfare, with an understanding that if they can make their way to the venue, they鈥檒l be looked after from there on in.

There are exceptions. Cowie says that 鈥渋n certain circumstances, the client will say 鈥業 want to fly everyone, I鈥檓 going to charter a big jet.鈥欌

While many destination wedding planners welcome a boundless budget, UK-born, French-based wedding planner Sarah Thomas, of Sarah Thomas Events consciously caps her weddings at 500,000 euros (around US$548,000).

鈥淧urely because after that point, people are asking for things that I don鈥檛 ethically agree with,鈥 Thomas tells CNN Travel. 鈥淲ith the amount of hardship in the world, I don鈥檛 really agree with having, let鈥檚 say, a million red rose petals falling out of a helicopter, that kind of thing.鈥

Thomas still plans some extremely fancy events 鈥 think French chateau-based weddings inspired by her years working for the British Royal Family. She just felt the need to introduce a limit 鈥渁fter doing a wedding for a trust fund kid.鈥

鈥淚t just broke me,鈥 she says. 鈥淎nd I just said to my partner, 鈥業 can鈥檛 work with these people.鈥 鈥

IN-DEMAND DESTINATIONS

Elite destination wedding planners are not only top-notch event planners 鈥 skilled in everything from table arranging and floral displays to in-law management 鈥 they鈥檙e also walking guidebooks of the world鈥檚 most beautiful destinations and potential wedding venues.

Sometimes, says Carr, couples will come to his company Samkoma with an idea of where in the world they want to host their nuptials, but just as often they鈥檒l look to him for inspiration.

Carr will ask prospective couples: 鈥淎re there certain landscapes that you gravitate most towards? Are you more drawn to the ocean? Are you more drawn to the countryside, the mountains?鈥

The goal, he says, is 鈥渢o try and get a sense of what the couple鈥檚 looking for geographically.鈥

鈥淎nd then from there, a lot of times I鈥檓 able to recommend just from my own travels.鈥

Certain countries 鈥 namely Italy and France 鈥 remain perennially popular. And within those countries, certain spots are at the top of many couples鈥 lists.

Fantin Borghi says Lake Como is the premier Italian location, in part, she thinks, due to name recognition. Not only do American couples know the region from movies like 鈥淐asino Royale,鈥 celebrity couples like John Legend and Chrissy Teigan and George and Amal Clooney famously wed there.

Fantin Borghi suggests Lake Como is also popular because of the plethora of five-star hotels that popped up around the lake in the past couple of decades. If the 1% are coming, they have certain expectations of service and accommodation 鈥 in the surroundings of Lake Como, they know they can get it.

Lake Como is a very popular destination wedding spot. Here's a wedding at Villa Olmo planned by Giorgia Fantin Borghi. (Giacomo Terracciano Studio/Courtesy Giorgia Fantin Borghi)

Cowie says ensuring a venue is able to provide a super-luxurious, super-seamless experience is absolutely crucial. His clients have what he calls 鈥渢he Four Seasons mentality.鈥 Even when he鈥檚 planning a wedding at a five-star venue, he never puts anything down to chance and always brings in his own people who work with those already on site.

鈥淲e bring in a whole layer of management,鈥 he explains. 鈥淲e bring in our own concierge that dovetails with the hotel鈥檚 concierge, we bring in our own food and beverage manager to second guess and to work with the hotel.鈥

Cowie says he was recently asked to 鈥渟alvage鈥 a wedding that had been planned by someone else. The issue, says Cowie, was there weren鈥檛 enough people on the ground able to deliver the high service needed.

鈥淚 literally went to the island with a SWAT team,鈥 he says. 鈥淚 went and did an analysis, and then I brought in the rest of the team to create the support that should have been there at the very beginning.鈥

All this said, Cowie stresses that local planners are also integral to the process. In his experience, it鈥檚 the local team who鈥檒l step in if there are any day-of issues.

鈥淲e were just doing a wedding, six weeks ago, in Cannes, in the south of France,鈥 he recalls. 鈥淥ut of nowhere, we had a thunderstorm and the party was outdoors on a beautiful gravel area 鈥 and before we knew it, we were deep in water. But because we had local people with us, they brought in four trailers of pea gravel and covered the floor completely. The water disappeared.鈥

This all happened right before the first guests were due to arrive. When the attendees pulled up at the beautiful spot moments later, they were none the wiser.

HIGH-LEVEL ENTERTAINMENT

Once the venue is locked in, the planners and clients move on to discussing what鈥檚 often the next most expensive component 鈥 wedding day entertainment.

This could be a multi-person orchestra playing as the couple walks down the aisle, a drone light show, a personalized ballet performance or a surprise appearance from a world-famous musical artist.

While Cowie is open to any requests, he says he usually discourages superstars from performing at his nuptials. World-renowned musicians come with their own demands 鈥 think a 36-foot stage, a lighting plan, a time limitation.

鈥淎nd all of a sudden, it becomes about the headliner, and all the guests are talking about the headliner,鈥 says Cowie. 鈥淚t often takes over the wedding.鈥

The couple should be the 鈥渟tars of the show, the focal point of everything,鈥 says Cowie.

鈥淪o why dilute that with someone? And also, people are coming there to express their love for you. It鈥檚 not about coming to be entertained in the most over-the-top way.

鈥淚 usually say to the client: 鈥榃hy don鈥檛 you save that for your next big birthday?鈥欌

Still, if a couple insists, the destination wedding planners will acquiesce.

鈥淥bviously, the bigger the name, the higher the price point,鈥 says Carr. 鈥淏ut when you鈥檙e working with some of these clients that just have an unlimited budget, if they want the remaining members of Journey to come play for two minutes, that price point is going to be high, but I mean, some people will pay it.鈥

And even if the musician is mid-tour and unable to swing by, there are workarounds that can provide the intended thrills.

鈥淲e have been able to work with their management companies to have the artists do a two- or three-minute song recorded and then send it to the couple and we have video projected on the wall,鈥 says Carr.

Speaking of the potential for the attention being drawn away from the couple getting married, how do wedding planners handle the impact of a potential VIP guest list?

Cowie says he鈥檚 attended 鈥渕any weddings with huge, huge, huge major stars鈥 and says it鈥檚 鈥渘ot really a problem.鈥

After a bit of initial excitement, everyone usually turns their attention to the wedding 鈥 everyone is there to celebrate the couple getting married, after all, and that creates a bit of a level playing field.

鈥淚t normalizes it, there鈥檚 only so much you can be enamoured,鈥 agrees Lee.

鈥淚t鈥檚 not unusual that a well-known person is there 鈥 whether it be a sports person or an actress 鈥 it鈥檚 not unusual, but I鈥檝e not seen it where they鈥檙e taken over or overshadowed our couple,鈥 she says.

EXPECTING THE UNEXPECTED

A lot of the destination wedding planner鈥檚 work is about anticipating every last detail. Cowie says his team will plan each day 鈥渓iterally minute by minute.鈥

The goal is to 鈥渒now exactly what to expect from who at what time, and how it鈥檚 going to happen 鈥 and what we鈥檙e up against,鈥 he says.

鈥淲e did Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck鈥檚 wedding last August,鈥 says Cowie. The Georgia location was 鈥渃lose to a swamp. So we had to make sure that we sprayed for mosquitoes, we had to make sure that we had extra umbrellas on hand, we had to make sure that we had tents in case it rained at any given time,鈥 he recalls.

鈥淎 lot of our business is all about thinking proactively about what could go wrong. And how do we ensure we have all the safety nets in place to make sure that it doesn鈥檛 go wrong.鈥

While you might think wealthy couples hire wedding planners to avoid thinking about these minor, potentially stressful details, Cowie says he鈥檒l share all this intel with his clients.

鈥淏ecause at the end of the line, there鈥檚 a big price tag attached,鈥 he says. 鈥淎nd we want them to understand exactly where every dollar has gone.鈥

鈥淚 find the more information we give them, the more confidence it gives them to know that we have interpreted what they鈥檙e looking for,鈥 says Cowie. 鈥淎nd they鈥檝e got someone who鈥檚 much more than just creative 鈥 someone who can really ensure an extraordinary guest experience no matter what happens.鈥

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