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They fell in love three decades ago. Now they pilot planes together

Joel and Shelley met while working in the U.S. Air Force. (@luvpilots/Instagram) Joel and Shelley met while working in the U.S. Air Force. (@luvpilots/Instagram)
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On their first flight together, Joel Atkinson and Shelley Atkinson couldn鈥檛 contain their excitement. They enthused to the flight attendants. They posed for photos. They told passengers via a pre-flight announcement.

鈥淲e made a big deal about it,鈥 Joel tells CNN Travel.

Then, right before take-off, Joel and Shelley sat side by side in the flight deck, just the two of them. They鈥檇 come full circle, and were about to embark on an exciting new chapter.

鈥淚t felt amazing,鈥 Shelley tells CNN Travel.

鈥淎s we prepared to take off, I was giddy, euphoric,鈥 says Joel.

Joel and Shelley met as twentysomethings flying jets in the U.S. Air Force. They became fast friends, then, over time, fell in love.

Today, they鈥檝e been married for 27 years and counting. They鈥檝e brought up two kids together. And now they鈥檙e both pilots for Southwest Airlines. They regularly fly together, with Joel as captain and Shelley as first officer.

The couple say working together is 鈥渁mazing.鈥 They treat layovers as 鈥渄ate nights.鈥 They learn from one another鈥檚 respective 鈥渨isdom and judgment.鈥

And no, they don鈥檛 argue mid-flight.

鈥淧eople ask us, how does it work, flying together?鈥 says Joel. 鈥淲e know a few pilot couples and some of them fly together, some of them don鈥檛. I鈥檝e heard people say, 鈥極h I could never fly with my wife or my husband.鈥欌

For Joel and Shelley, working together is seamless 鈥 a joy that comes easily to them both.

鈥淲e鈥檙e best friends,鈥 says Shelley.

鈥淭here鈥檚 just that unspoken bond,鈥 says Joel.

Inspired by 鈥楾op Gun鈥

Shelley grew up in Iowa and moved to Colorado 鈥 Joel鈥檚 home state 鈥 as a teenager. The two spent their high school years unaware of one another, but they graduated the same year, and both opted to study at Colorado鈥檚 Air Force Academy in the late 1980s.

Joel says he was very influenced by the 1985 Tom Cruise movie 鈥淭op Gun鈥 鈥 鈥渨hich made flying jets look like a lot of fun.鈥 For Shelley, who was an athlete, the appeal of the Air Force Academy was less about flying 鈥 which she only really discovered once she was enrolled 鈥 and more an opportunity to play college basketball.

鈥淚 didn鈥檛 attend the Academy to pursue flying, initially. Once I was there I realized it was a great opportunity for a fun and challenging career,鈥 she says. 鈥淎nd the introduction to flying there made me want to pursue it further.鈥

Joel and Shelley spent four years studying at the Colorado Air Force Academy without actually crossing paths, although Joel was vaguely aware of Shelley.

鈥淭here鈥檚 not that many women at the Air Force Academy, so I kind of knew who she was,鈥 he says.

The two finally met a few years later, after they鈥檇 both completed pilot training in different states. They got the same first assignment 鈥 flying Lockheed C-130 Hercules aircraft in Texas.

When Shelley arrived in Texas, Joel had been there for a few months.

鈥淪o I was there, kind of established, and she came into the office where I was working,鈥 he recalls. 鈥淪he came in and turned in the paperwork, and we said, 鈥楬i,鈥 just exchanged some pleasantries.鈥

Joel was struck by Shelley right away.

鈥淪he鈥檚 tall. She looks great. She left the room and this other coworker was just looking at me smiling. And I said, 鈥榃hat?鈥 And he could tell.鈥

Looking back, Joel thinks it was the 鈥渆ye contact鈥 he had with Shelley that gave his feelings away. Or maybe just 鈥渢he look on my face.鈥

鈥淭here was something there,鈥 says Joel, smiling. 鈥淏ut I just kind of laughed it off. I was like, 鈥楴ah, we鈥檙e just going to be friends.鈥欌

Joel was also a bit intimidated by Shelley 鈥 he was 鈥渁ttracted to her right away,鈥 but didn鈥檛 know if she鈥檇 ever be interested in him.

鈥淪he鈥檚 taller than me. And I had never dated anyone taller than me,鈥 he says. 鈥淪he鈥檚 an athlete, she鈥檚 a natural leader, and just an impressive person.鈥

But Joel鈥檚 warm nature appealed to Shelley. She felt comfortable around him right away. They became close friends.

鈥淛oel has a really great sense of humour,鈥 says Shelley. 鈥淚 love that about him. And he just really has a sensitive heart to people, all people around him, he looks out for people.鈥

Shelley and Joel became friends first and later fell in love. (@luvpilots/Instagram)

鈥淭hat really attracted me to him. And also, he used to have a nice dark head of hair. I really liked that too. But he has a very distinguished look now, and he鈥檚 just as handsome as ever.鈥

About a year after they first met, Joel and Shelley were deployed abroad, together.

That鈥檚 when they 鈥渒ind of started dating,鈥 as Joel puts it. While there wasn鈥檛 much opportunity to go on actual dates on active service, they bonded.

鈥淐onversations, talking about everything, basically,鈥 says Shelley. 鈥淲e really got to know each other鈥檚 heart that way. And I think it just made it clear that this is what we were supposed to do.鈥

Back home in the U.S., the two 鈥渟tarted officially dating.鈥

鈥淲e just kind of knew that this was going to be it,鈥 says Joel. 鈥淎nd within a few months, we got married.鈥

Joel and Shelley became instructor Air Force pilots in Mississippi. Then, in the early 2000s, Shelley gave birth to the couple鈥檚 kids, two twins, a boy and a girl. Shelley left flying around this time, but she stayed in the military, working for the U.S. Air National Guard.

鈥淚 wanted to be at home,鈥 says Shelley.

The path to pregnancy wasn鈥檛 easy for the couple and Joel calls their kids a 鈥渉uge blessing.鈥

鈥淲e went through in vitro a couple of times,鈥 he says. 鈥淚t took a few years for us to actually get pregnant.鈥

The family relocated back to Colorado and Joel transitioned from military flying to commercial flying, becoming a pilot with Southwest Airlines in 2006.

Returning to the air

Cut to 2021. The pandemic years were tough going for Joel and Shelley, emotionally speaking. While the couple stayed healthy, their kids were in their late teens and struggled with the upheaval. Plus, COVID was impacting the aviation industry, so Joel was flying less. Around this time, Shelley left her job at the National Guard. She and Joel were wholly focused on their family and their kids鈥 well-being.

But in time, the pandemic waned and Joel started flying more regularly. Joel and Shelley鈥檚 kids graduated high school and started the next phase of their lives. It was a transitional period for the Atkinson family, and in turn, Shelley started considering her future.

She found herself dreaming about flying. She hadn鈥檛 been behind the controls of a plane in over two decades, but she felt a call to return. She started wondering if, like Joel, she could become a commercial pilot.

When Shelley voiced the idea to Joel, he was immediately enthusiastic.

鈥淚 said, 鈥楥ome fly with me,鈥欌 says Joel, joking 鈥渃ue the music.鈥

Pilots Joel and Shelley Atkinson are a husband-and-wife duo working at Southwest Airlines. (@luvpilots/Instagram)

Then, by coincidence, later that day, Joel saw a social media post from his airline, Southwest, about a pilot who鈥檇 taken a two-decade break to raise a family, then returned to flying.

鈥淪he literally had the same story as me,鈥 says Shelley.

It felt like a sign. While Joel didn鈥檛 know this other pilot directly, he was able to reach out to her via his work network and pass on contact details to Shelley, who subsequently texted the other pilot, asking for guidance and advice. Then, with encouragement from her new friend 鈥 plus Joel鈥檚 wholehearted support 鈥 Shelley committed to returning to the skies full-time.

While Shelley had years of Air Force experience, she hadn鈥檛 flown airplanes for 20 years. She had to hit the books, take additional tests and ensure her qualifications were up to speed.

But before long Shelley was hired by SkyWest Airlines, flying regional jets. Then she joined Joel at Southwest in 2023.

鈥淚t was crazy. It happened way faster than I thought it would. It鈥檚 been amazing,鈥 says Shelley.

鈥淚t was meant to be,鈥 says Joel.

Flying together

Joel and Shelley credit their success as a co-pilot team to their nearly three decades of marriage, as well as years of co-parenting.

鈥淩aising two teenagers during COVID, I tell people that was a lot harder than what we鈥檙e doing now,鈥 says Joel.

Plus, the two met as colleagues 鈥 so they know how to balance commitment to a job with enjoying each other鈥檚 company.

Still, as a married couple in the military, Joel and Shelley never flew in the same aircraft.

鈥淭he military kind of frowns upon it,鈥 says Joel. 鈥淚t鈥檚 a little morbid, but they don鈥檛 want you to both go down in a plane crash.鈥

No such guidelines exist in commercial aviation, and so once Shelley joined Southwest, she and Joel were able to work side by side. Joel鈥檚 seniority allows him to regularly bid for flights with Shelley. And the two find Joel鈥檚 years of commercial aviation experience pairs well with Shelley鈥檚 fresh take.

鈥淪he looks to me and relies on me for the experience that I have. But I also know that she is a very sharp person, she just went through a lot of training. So her knowledge is fresh. And she also has that wisdom and judgment,鈥 says Joel.

Since the excitement of their first flight, Joel and Shelley tend not to 鈥渕ake a big deal鈥 about being a husband and wife pilot duo 鈥 unless it鈥檚 pre-empted by their colleagues.

鈥淲e wait for them to ask,鈥 says Shelley. As the couple share the same last name, often crew members put two and two together.

As Joel鈥檚 the more senior of the two, he often runs the pre-flight briefing. Sometimes he鈥檒l end it with a quick, throwaway: 鈥淵es, we鈥檙e married.鈥

The crew usually 鈥渟tart laughing,鈥 says Joel.

When Joel and Shelley are taking off and landing, they鈥檙e focused on the job at hand. 鈥淚t鈥檚 very technical,鈥 says Joel. 鈥淲e鈥檙e running checklists.鈥

But when the airplane reaches cruising altitude, 鈥渢here鈥檚 some downtime鈥 and Joel and Shelley will make the most of it, talking through their thoughts on life, their kids, their future plans and everything else that鈥檚 on their mind.

鈥淚t鈥檚 so great, because all the years that I was flying, and she was at home, anything I wanted to talk to her about when I鈥檓 up in the air, it had to wait,鈥 says Joel. 鈥淵ou鈥檙e saving up conversations until you鈥檙e home. It鈥檚 like now we鈥檙e making up for lost time.鈥

Then, when they land, Joel and Shelley make the most of the layovers. Southwest largely flies domestically, so the couple enjoy travelling the length and breadth of the U.S. together.

鈥淚t is a great job, because you go see different places and spend time in different cities,鈥 says Joel, but before Shelley joined Southwest, Joel says layovers sometimes felt like 鈥渨asted time, because it was just me, and I couldn鈥檛 share it with her.鈥

鈥淏ut now we鈥檙e together when we鈥檙e on the road 鈥 it鈥檚 so fun. Because every night on the road, it鈥檚 a date night together,鈥 he says.

Now, instead of counting the days until he鈥檚 home, Joel says his 鈥渉ome is right here鈥 because 鈥渟he鈥檚 with me.鈥

Family connection

While Joel and Shelley have flown together countless times since Shelley joined Southwest, they鈥檝e yet to fly with their kids in tow. That鈥檚 on the to-do list 鈥 plus, their son is also training to be a pilot, so there鈥檚 a chance Shelley and Joel might pilot an aircraft with him in the future.

For Shelley, an additional perk of the last couple of years is her adult kids getting to 鈥渧iew her as a pilot for the first time.鈥

Shelley and Joel鈥檚 children grew up knowing their parents met flying jets 鈥 but while they saw their father regularly piloting airplanes for Southwest, they never saw Shelley flying. Shelley is really happy her children get to see her doing a job she loves.

Shelley鈥檚 also proud to be a female pilot in an industry that鈥檚 still very male-dominated. She hopes to inspire other people, especially mothers who may have taken a break from the workplace to raise a family, by demonstrating that returning to a passion is possible.

鈥淚 hope it encourages other women that there is this opportunity out there 鈥 you can come back and you can still do it,鈥 she says.

Shelley says she鈥檚 really loved rediscovering her love of flying.

鈥淭he view from 36,000 feet is pretty awesome,鈥 she says. 鈥淔lying over parts of the country - I just love looking down and going, 鈥極h, what town is that?鈥欌

Shelley and Joel particularly enjoy flying in and out of San Diego, Calif., but they also love it when Southwest takes them to New York. Before Christmas, they enjoyed a stopover in New York City and went searching for the settings of their favourite movies, from 鈥淓lf鈥 to 鈥淪erendipity.鈥

鈥淚 love travelling, seeing new places,鈥 says Joel, who adds that he鈥檚 gone from avoiding working weekends to voluntarily signing up for Saturday and Sunday flight shifts. He and Shelley now spend Saturday nights watching jazz in Portland, going on hikes in Sacramento or drinking cocktails in Palm Springs.

Joel鈥檚 always loved flying 鈥 especially what he calls 鈥渢he art and science鈥 of aviation. He also loves 鈥渟erving people, getting them to where they need to be,鈥 but he admits flying during the pandemic was hard going. For Joel, having Shelley now by his side at work has 鈥渂een just a complete turnaround.鈥 Now even the ride to work is fun as the couple car share, coffees in hand.

Joel and Shelley, who post about their adventures on their Instagram account @luvpilots, are currently planning to pick up a flight together on Valentine鈥檚 Day. Joel bought the two of them heart-printed ties especially 鈥 they鈥檙e 鈥渟illy, but fun,鈥 says Joel.

The couple enjoy chronicling their travels on social media 鈥 celebrating their marriage, their respective careers and their adventures.

鈥淲e feel blessed. We鈥檙e thankful for the opportunity,鈥 says Joel. 鈥淲e鈥檙e thankful to Southwest Airlines for letting us do this together.鈥

鈥淚f you love doing something, why not do it with the person you love?鈥 says Shelley.

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